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Jennifer Lopez isn’t afraid to get loud about her breakups.
The Hustlers star—who has shared notable romances over the years, including her marriage to Ben Affleck from 2022 to 2024 after previously ending their first engagement 20 years earlier—explained her ethos when it comes to bouncing back following the end of a relationship.
“Breakups are not a failure. I honestly feel like it’s a launchpad into your next best self. We should have a party when we break up!” Lopez told Kareem Rahma on a June 30 episode of Subway Takes. “People should say, ‘You broke up? Congratulations,’ because one, you made a decision. Two, it was probably the best thing for everybody.”
The “All I Had” singer doubled down on her optimistic viewpoint, adding, “If you’re the one who’s being heartbroken, you’re the winner. Because if you go around your life and you’re breaking hearts, let’s say, you’re a loser,” though Lopez did concede, “I’ve been on both sides. We all do that. But if you’re that person, you’re never learning anything.”
And the Super Bowl performer pinpointed why she feels calling it quits can ultimately lead to positive change.
“I just feel like the biggest growth spurts I’ve had emotionally, mentally, psychologically have always come from a heartbreak,” Lopez explained. “And that’s not just in romantic relationships, that’s in work heartbreaks, all of it.”
“It’s the only time you dig. You’re like, ‘What the f–k happened? How do I do this? Why do I keep doing this? Or why didn’t that happen? What could I have done better?'” Lopez shared of her past thought process amid a breakup. “You change yourself completely.”
As for what the Maid in Manhattan actress—who was also previously married to Ojani Noa, Cris Judd and Marc Anthony, with whom she shares 18-year-old twins Max and Emme, in addition to being engaged to Alex Rodriguez—looks for in a potential partner?
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“I don’t discriminate. I like skinny guys. I like a chunk around the middle,” Lopez admitted. “I like beards, I like clean shaven, it doesn’t matter. It’s the person inside.”
And the dancer’s refusal to be broken by heartbreak has paid off. After all, she was able to pose next to Affleck on a red carpet nine months after settling their divorce while promoting their movie musical Kiss of the Spider Woman in October 2025.
Still, J.Lo told Howard Stern days later she knows how to draw a boundary with her exes. As she put it, “Once I’m done, you’re dead to me.”
To relive Bennifer’s highs and lows, look no further.
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December 2001: Filming Gigli
The two prepare to film a scene for the movie in West Hollywood. The couple met on the set of the film.
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October 2002: Spotted in Beverly Hills
The two are spotted in the city.
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November 2002: Filming Gigli and Engagement
The two film the movie on Will Rogers State Beach in Los Angeles. That month, the actor proposes to the actress with a 6.1-carat pink diamond ring.
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November 2002: Filming Jersey Girl
The two film the movie in New York City.
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November 2002: Leaving MTV’s TRL
Is there anything more ’00s than both Bennifer 1.0 and TRL?
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December 2002: Red Carpet Debut
The two make their red carpet debut as a couple at the premiere of her film Maid in Manhattan.
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January 2003: Sundance
The two bundle up at the Sundance Film Festival in Utah.
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February 2003: Daredevil Premiere
The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben as the superhero.
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February 2003: Daredevil Premiere
The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben and future ex-wife Jennifer Garner.
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March 2003: Oscars
The two attend the Academy Awards together.
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May 2003: Basketball Game
The two sit courtside at a Los Angeles Lakers game.
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July 2003: Canada Trip
The two film a Dateline interview for NBC in Vancouver.
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July 2003: Gigli Premiere
The two appear at the premiere for their movie in Westwood, Calif.
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August 2003: Gigli Is Released
…it flops at the box office.
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September 2003: Wedding Is Off
The two postpone their wedding. No future date is given.
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October 2003: Baseball Date
The two are seen at a Boston Red Sox game. The team is Ben’s favorite.
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January 2004: It’s Over
The two end their engagement.
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September 2021: Red Carpet Royalty
They’re baaaack. On Sept. 10, the couple makes their first red carpet appearance in 18 years at the Venice Film Festival premiere of The Last Duel.
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September 2021: Look of Love
There’s no denying J.Lo makes for a stunning plus-one!
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September 2021: Back to the Stage
Ben supports J.Lo at the 2021 Global Citizen Live event in New York City, where she performed onstage. It marked her first music gig since she performed at VAX LIVE in May, where the actor also appeared onstage separately, fueling rumors of a rekindled romance.
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September 2021: Met Gala Debut
The two attend the Met Gala together for the first time.
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October 2021: PDA at Premiere
Jen and Ben put on a sizzling display on the red carpet at the premiere of his film The Last Duel in New York City.
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April 2022: Engaged Again!
Jennifer confirmed her engagement to the Gone Girl actor with a video posted to her On The JLo site, revealing a glimpse of her beautiful engagement ring with a green stone.
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July 2022: Married!
On July 16, Jennifer and Ben tied the knot in a surprise ceremony at A Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas.
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July 2022: Post-Wedding Trip to Paris
The two vacation with her twins and two of his kids in the French capital soon after their wedding.
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June 2023: Red Carpet Fabulous
J.Lo steps out with Ben in support of his movie The Flash.
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February 2024: This Is Them…Now
Jennifer release This Is Me… Now, an album about her relationship with Ben. The record is accompanied by a musical film titled This Is Me… Now: A Love Story and the documentary The Greatest Love Story Never Told.
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March 2024: Jenny on the Block
The couple enjoys a day out in NYC on March 30, 2024.
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August 2024: Divorce
J.Lo filed for divorce Aug. 20, listing the date of separation as Apil 26, according to the filing obtained by TMZ.
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